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Perspective On Relationships
Do we even know what marriage is? What is the answer?
Many of our marriages are sad pictures of people fighting to have their own way.
Let's take a look at how to restore love back in-to marriage:
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Take off pride and ego, so you'll be able to SEE what your marriage, (relationships), have become.
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Intimacy, or, (In-To-Me-See)
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Listen to yourself when you speak to your loved one!
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Each person is probably determined to win over their opposition.
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Others are in the same house but have different agenda's and constantly go their separate ways.
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Lines of communication are delivered as an attack!
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"Remember that a house divided falls, and great and complete is that fall!"
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Marriage is!
A close or intimate, (in-to-me-see), union of two people. The true concept of marriage is sharing, a holding together, a melting together into unity.
I am not suggesting that you become non-entities when you marry, but merely, that your focus is now geared towards commitment. The promotion of the whole rather than for self.
Now, you ask , 'How do we do this?'
Just a word from experience...
There are times in every good marriage when a husband and wife may think or feel that they don't like each other very much.
- Don't fret my beloveds for during these occasions, always remember that emotions can and will be like that.
In all relationships;
- work,
- entertainment and most of all
- marriage "feelings" flatten out every now and then.
Think about a car's tires, occasionally they flatten out with a nail in the tread. Riding on the rim is a pretty bumpy experience for everyone on board. This is a natural occurrence in most aspects of our lives.
Please remember This!
- Ask yourself, 'what would you do When unexpected tornados blow through your home? What about the times of 'sails sagging' and 'silence hovers' about? The level 0f commitment will hold you both firm!!! Refuse to let any discouragement become a noose around your necks. Trust me 'it' will try! Instead, Claim over and over that nothing short of death must ever be permitted to come between the two of you.
- Nothing!!!
- (Always choose to forgive, this is not a feeling it 's a decision.)
This quality is essential as the seasons of your lives emerge.
The best scenario:
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That there can be healing and wholeness brought to everyone in the home. Divorce, the alternative, carries many scars for all involved. I urge you to make a conscious effort to improve the quality of your relationship.
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Learn your strengths and weaknesses and how to compliment them, thereby building the strongest union possible.
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It is vital that we gain insight into each other's motivations and characteristics to dissolve misunderstandings.
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As you learn to appreciate yourselves and your partners' unique design, and begin to work toward meeting your temperament needs, you will be encouraged as you see positive changes.
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As you continue to evaluate, improve, and adjust, it will bring your marriage back into the arena it belongs.
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Strive for unity.
It is a good thing at any stage of a marriage to evaluate yourselves with temperament analysis. Whether enhancing a good marriage, shoring up trouble spots, or endeavoring to heal serious problems, the temperament analysis is a valuable asset.
Be Blessed,
Pastoral Counselor L. S. Mendez
Certified Temperament Therapist
(386) - 437 - 0057
(386) - 503 - 0001
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About Marriage
"We are what we repeatedly do.
Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit."
Aristotle
What is marriage?
What is the answer?
It is a good thing at any stage of a marriage to evaluate yourselves with temperament analysis. Whether enhancing a good marriage, shoring up trouble spots, or endeavoring to heal serious problems, the temperament analysis is a valuable asset.
Many of our marriages are sad pictures of people fighting to have their own way, each determined to win over their opposition, others are in the same house but have different agenda's and constantly go their separate ways. Lines of communication are non-existent or fuzzy at best. We see new books coming out on the bookshelves; we see talk show after talk show trying to present new concepts and solutions to age-old problems.
Marriage is simply a close or intimate union of two people. When we look into what that really means we see that a union is an alliance, a grouping together for a specific purpose, a combination, a single whole made up of parts. When we are joined together in matrimony, we make a merger of two separate entities into one. The true concept of marriage is a sharing, a pulling together, and a melting together into the unity of one. I am not suggesting that you become non-entities when you marry, but merely, that your focus is now geared for the good of and the promotion of the whole rather than for that of self.
The best scenario for any marriage is that there can be healing and wholeness brought to everyone in the home where at all possible. Divorce, the alternative, carries many scars for all involved. I urge you to make a conscious effort to improve the quality of your relationship. Learn your strengths and weaknesses and how to compliment them, thereby building the strongest union possible
It is vital that we gain insight into each other's motivations and characteristics to dissolve misunderstandings. As you learn to appreciate yourselves and your partners' unique design, and begin to work toward meeting your respective temperament needs, you will be encouraged as you see positive changes. As you continue to evaluate, improve, and adjust, it will bring your marriage back into the arena it belongs. Strive for unity.
"Remember that a house divided falls, and great and complete is that fall!"
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